Because you will never get everyone on board. It just won’t happen. Some people will “get” you and your work. Some won’t and that’s totally okay. We hear this a lot when it comes to finding an agent or editor or mentor, or whatever. Rejections are often subjective, meaning a “no” doesn’t mean it’s bad. But this also goes for critiques.
The thing is, there is a big range of reactions to critiques. We love it, hate it, get it but still hate it, have absolutely no idea how to actually *do* it, want to punch the person in the face through your computer screen, scream out “YOU JUST DON’T GET IT!” or kiss the person for being so damn spot on it’s insane.
Critiques, just like everything else, are subjective. It’s okay to disregard some advice/suggestions. But it’s not okay to ignore it. Why? Because they might be totally completely right and you are just too damn stubborn to see it.
If a critique doesn’t hit you square in the face making you say “DUH!!” or “Ooh!”, then let it sit. Don’t react. Don’t respond. Give yourself a little distance. Then really think about what they were saying and why. Maybe reread whatever it is they were commenting on and try to see it through their eyes. A lot of times there is *something* wrong, or at least something that can be improved on, they might have just suggested the wrong fix or their comments came across wrong, or again, you were just too stubborn to see clearly.
Or, maybe they were wrong. Maybe they have a different view point and want your work to be something you don’t want it to be. That’s okay. That’s just a difference in opinions. Sometimes the words you use don’t click for them, don’t inspire the kind of image you were looking for. Play around and see if you can find a new way to get your point across, but if you can’t it’s entirely possible that you are right and they are wrong so don’t stress about it too much.
This is your work, not theirs. Do what’s right for you
It’s a balancing act. Opening your mind to possibilities of the critiquers suggestions and really considering what you can do to fix it, and being true to your own creative muse
There is no right or wrong answer, only what is perceived to be the best way to express a thought, image, character, emotion, story etc. What you think is best, is not always going to be what others think is best. Learn from what your peers say, and grow but never let them change you, not really.